Being an adult is hard. I know I’ve mentioned on here how we cannot go through life alone; and it’s true.
If you ever drive through New Jersey, you will find out that you’ll need an attendant to pump your gas. At work and at school, you’ll need others to explain complex matters to you. And in life, it would be harder if you didn’t seek out and listen to the advice of others. In Proverbs it says, “My child, listen to me and do as I say, and you will have a long, good life. I will teach you wisdom’s ways and lead you in straight paths”(vs. 10-11). The truth is, I don’t know everything so I like to seek out the wisdom of others.
In knowing that I could no longer afford living on my own, I decided to move back with my parents. It was a really difficult decision, one in which my pride was trying to defy reality. If I moved back, I would feel like a failure. What would others think? How would I be able to adjust after living independently? Would I end up living with my parents forever?
These are all questions that swirled in my head, but in the end, reality won. There was no reason for me to feel embarrassed or ashamed or like I failed. I realized that my ultimate goal – of paying off my student loan debt – was more important than living on my own and being broke.
Even more so, I found encouragement from others who moved in with their family, while they made strides to also become debt free. Now obviously, I won’t live with my parents forever. I have a goal in mind and if I stick to the plan, I’ll only be here for two years. And even if I stay a little beyond that trying to save for my own place, it won’t be the end of the world.
I’m not going to let what I perceive how others will react, determine what steps I do/do not take in life. What’s more is bettering myself in the present and for the future. I am fortunate to have amazing parents who support me and everything I strive to do. If it wasn’t for their support, their love, their wisdom, and their house (lol), I would be drowning in debt and anxiety.
Sometimes our pride gets in the way and we end up in a worse situation. If you need help, ask for it…don’t feel embarrassed or inadequate. Many times people want to help us, but they’re just waiting for us to ask. In Proverbs 11:2 it says, “Pride leads to disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.” In the short time that I lived on my own, I definitely saw the difference from when I was being proud and when I humbled myself. In the beginning, since I saved a lump sum before moving out, I was fine paying the bills. Once that lump sum was depleted, I struggled to figure out how I was going to pay for everything. It wasn’t until I humbled myself and asked my parents for help, that a weight was lifted off of me.
In the coming weeks, I will be sharing more about my experience living on my own. If there is anything you want me to talk about or if you have any questions for me, comment below. Also, I’m interested to know (for those that moved in with relatives as an adult), what was your strategy for moving out and how long it took. Thanks again for reading everyone!