As I told ya’ll in my last post, I moved out of my parent’s house! I have only been in my apartment for almost one month, and everything has gone almost swimmingly. The first two weeks at my new place presented some unexpected challenges. First, let me give you some background information about my family and I. I am the eldest child, so basically everything I do is major and sets the tone for my younger sister. My parents were super proud as I graduated (H.S., College, Graduate school), got my first “real” job, and now moved out. Additionally, my family is really close to each other.
When I moved out, I did not realize how much we would miss each other’s presence. I went from seeing and eating meals with them everyday, to coming back to a quiet apartment and cooking for myself. Granted, I only live 10 minutes away from my family. However, the distance was the root of this challenge. My mother wanted me to come over every day and spend the night. And for the first two weeks, it seemed like I was over their house every other day. This was hindering me from having a smooth transition to adulting.
I had to tell my mother that I could not come to the house everyday. If I were to visit them every (or every other) day, there would have been no point to me moving out on my own. She was a little hurt. Actually, she said she thought I was abandoning her; which made me feel quite horrible. The truth is, my family has relied on each for support for as long as I can remember. I think as my mother (and my family) were able to cope when I went off to college, they will be able to do the same as I live 10 minutes away.
However, this has also been a challenging time for me. I am trying to find a balance between being with them, and having my own life. I am trying to limit myself to visiting them 3 times a week. And I am trying to maintain a good relationship with each family member; I do not want any of them to feel abandoned.
If you have any advice for me, please comment below. Thanks for reading!